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31 Girls in 31 Days

Posted in artwork, dendoo art, dendoo news by dendoo on June 17, 2010


So tell me – could you handle 31 girls in 31 days?

Last month I was part of a project called ’31 Girls in 31 Days’.  If this is making you feel a lil deja vu that’s because there was a similar project in March with the same name hosted by the same person, the wonderful VESTQUE!

She, I and basically everyone who took part had SO much fun that she decided to host part deux of the project and this time there was a twist: poison.  Yep, under the theme poison artists from all over the world submitted to the project.  I had a blast creating this piece for the project and I think it was even better the second time around because of the theme.  It was more tied together.

So check out 31 females over 31 days…if you think you can handle it.  Be on the look out for my poisoned beauty in the line up!

And don’t fret, if you find that you have an appetite for 31 beauties there will be a July edition.  I’m starting to think this is going to be a regular project and I for one am very excited.  I’ll have an announcement via my blog when July starts to roll in.

Much poisoned love, dendoo

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Condom use is Sexy

Posted in Inspiration, misc by dendoo on June 14, 2010

Well hello there!
I’ve had quite an adventurous time away but it’s back to the blog and back to sharing and caring.

About two weeks ago I watched a local show here that focuses on issues within my country’s community.  The issue being discussed that night was on the issue of condom use.  Well…let’s just say I didn’t totally agree with what was being said.  I was so disappointed I made a video about it AND wrote the show an email.  Take a look and read!

And this is what I wrote to the show:

Hello,

I watched your show last night dealing with HIV/AIDS within our community.  I am pleased that you highlighted women in your show.  Overall it was okay but there were some points where I was in total disbelief and disagreement with what you and your guests were saying.

On condom use:
This is where I had a huge problem with what you were telling us.  Yes it is true condom use is not popular within the TCI community or the Caribbean community for that matter but I think this was a place where you, as someone who is seen as an educated Black woman with various experiences, have an opportunity to help change that.

I can not recollect the exact term used by you and your guests but it was something along the lines of “it would be wrong of us to ask our partner to use a condom” in the sense that since it is our culture to do without we would be asking so much of our partner, it would be against culture and prat ice to ask our partner to use a condom.

I STRONGLY disagree.  Culture is not always right.  Practices are not always right.  It was practice to throw excrement right outside centuries ago, it was practice to not wash hands before an operation or sterilize instruments before and after operating, but these practices were WRONG.  It is prat ice within our community to not use condoms but that practice is WRONG.

I agree, within the Caribbean women are usually the strong force of a relationship.  I like to believe that women have the power to be movers and shakers.  We can let a man think he is charge but a strong woman knows how to quietly pull the strings.  I will not enter a relationship unless I can use condoms.  I don’t think it’s wrong to present this to my partner, I could care less if it goes against culture because at the end of the day I know culture will not help me if I get a STD or HIV or AIDS.

I don’t think I need to negotiate the use of condoms
.  Instead of encouraging our women to be passive in their womanhood you and your guests should have encouraged woman to take a bold step and look the issue in the eye.  There is nothing wrong with looking a partner in the eye and saying I use condoms and that is what I require in my sex life.  For the woman who does not like the female condom or is more comfortable with the male condom I think it is better to encourage her to be proactive and straightforward with her choices instead of tiptoeing around her man and asking in a submissive way if it’s okay that we use condoms.

If we can start changing our mentality about these things we can start making strides beyond our imagination.  I can’t understand how we can empower women if we’re telling them to be little kittens.  If our men are expecting us to be lionesses in the bedroom let’s start by being a lioness about our sexuality and our sexual life.

I believe culture is dictating too much of a woman’s life.
Actually I touched on this on my blog a bit.  I attacked it from the angle of what is expected of me culturally as a young woman and what I expect for myself.  If you like you can read it here: https://dendoo.wordpress.com/2010/06/01/youre-not-a-traditional-girl/

I think with all the different cultures and backgrounds we have in such a small community a woman, regardless of where she is from and her beliefs, may feel forced to keep up or conform to her partners beliefs.  A lot of people, men and women, living here do not feel it is a problem to have more than one partner AND to have unprotected sex with various partners.  However, if a woman can feel secure in who she is she will not only demand monogamy but she will also demand higher standards in her partner.  So you want to withold money?  Then keep it.  She should demand higher standards within herself.  It is only then a woman can be free from the perceptions, the practices and the unbalanced situations that life is presenting her.

Overall the show was okay but I think the way you presented some ideas could have been stronger.  I’m never going to trick or negotiate a partner into doing something that should be standard for my safety.  Screw culture when it comes to my sexual life.  We need to start educating ourselves at a younger age, don’t you think?  Too often I have asked why aren’t we educating our daughters from the time they are in high school?   Especially when this is the age many are starting to experiment sexually.

I will be blogging about this same issue.  Thanks for giving me something to think about.

What do you think?  In your culture is safe sex the norm and what do you feel about women and the strength of their voice in their sex lives?

Culture….it’s a crazazy thing.

Much love (and respect), dendoo

Keep Moving On

Posted in dendoo art, Inspiration by dendoo on April 30, 2010

artwork by dendoo

keep moving on
even if you got scuffs on your new shoes keep stepping on
even if he says your boots were made for walking keep walking on
even if you only have your bare feet keep keeping on
no matter what you have to do
keep moving on
cause you’re a woman and that’s what we do
let’s move along

much love, dendoo

The Ultimate Mother’s Day Gift Guide

Posted in Inspiration by dendoo on April 29, 2010

It’s that time of year again when you shower Mommy Dearest with loads of gifts in an attempt to somehow show her a fraction of how much you adore and love her.

This year might be a little difficult because HELLO everyone, including moi, is going through a recession.  They’re talking bout this thing is over and we’re heading into recovery… Um…okay…well some of us didn’t get the memo because let’s face it: things are hard.

So I started searching the internets and racking my mind in hopes of finding some fabu gift and gift ideas for you recessionistas out there.  dendoo’s got you covered.  Let’s go!

1. Plan a picnic,  2. Call your mom, 3.  Buy a card,  4. Make a card,  5.  Go for a walk with your mommy,  6.  Have tea with your mom,  7.  Write your mom a letter,  8. Sing mom her favourite song,  9. Make breakfast in bed 10. Have lunch at an affordable restaurant,  11. Help a new mom or mom to be document the life of their new bundle of joy with The First 1000 Days: A Baby Journal12. Buy mom a signature scent, 13. Roses or her favourite flower will surely brighten up the day,  14.  Bring the spa home,  15.  Book a photo session for the two of you   16. Mom should carry it all in style, don’t you think?  17. Watches are a classic, 18.  Go on a helicopter ride,  19.  Full day spa treatments (oh how I wish I could afford thee) sound nice,  20. Go on a trip somewhere exotic (my mum wants to go to China) 21. Offer to baby sit for the mom that is over stressed   22.  Dads and kids clean up the house   23.  Buy mom a star   24.  Plant a tree in honor of a mom that’s not here 25.  Take an elderly mom a good hot meal  26.  Read old mother’s day cards with your mommy   27.  Got a frumpy mom?  give her a fab makeover!  she can spring into summer…..  28.  Know a totally rad mom?  she can sport this tee   29.  Concert tickets would be sweeeeet!!   30.  Just tell mom i love you.

There are so many more ideas but this mother day, whatever you do, don’t forget to tell your momma that you love her!

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i was in an abusive relationship

Posted in Inspiration, misc by dendoo on September 4, 2009

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* this is not in any way me poking fun at abusive relationships.  i view abuse very seriously.  you can be in a damaging relationship with yourself and if you need proof just ask me about it.  sometimes we are so quick to say he was the cause of my problems or she really did put me through a lot but there are times when we HAVE to see that the problems started within ourselves.  if you don’t like it that’s fine but it’s my truth.  much love, dendoo.

Cirque de forever 21!

Posted in worn on wednesdays by dendoo on August 14, 2009

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I tweeted about F21’s new line but I HAD to do a blog post about it.  Yeah, yeah a little late but better late than never right?  RIGHT I am a serious lover of Forever 21 and if you open my closet you would see TONS of F21 clothing.

They make a chick like chic boo.  So when I checked out their new circus inspired line I totally freaked out in my heart, head, shoulders, knees and toes! The looks are divine, girly, sweet and AFFORDABLE. My favourite look is this adorable ensamble. I think I could be a princess in this for days.

As you know if it’s Forever 21 it’s going to be purse friendly.  This look is under $20.00!  WORD?  word.  Here are some of my favourite chicas who love F21.  I don’t know if they are boasting the Circus look but these girls always boost Forever 21.

Nubby {nubby twiglet always does it classy in red, black, and white}

Gala {gala darling is a darling and an international traveler}

pinkkkkkkkk {sexy broad pink she makes me want to curse like a sailor}

Agent {agent lover will make you love-her}

Oh, Oh.  Who is this doll in this outfit?  Wait could it be…me?  Yes!  This is me in a cute outfit with some help from Forever 21.  I’m so excited about this line and I hope you guys go and snap up some cute outfits because from what I can see it’s a limited time.  I wish I lived in America to snap me up something.  Hey…if anyone wants to send me a lil skirt or two holla at a dendoo!

Which store makes you go coo coo for cocoa puffs?   Let a chick know!  As always, much love from dendoo!

Dating 101

Posted in 1, delinkcious by dendoo on June 11, 2009

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//part ONE//

OMfG (you must click)

Have you ever crushed so hard on a guy (or girl) that you felt your heart was about to squeeze into a million taste the rainbow pieces?  Because his voice makes me melt, his eyes make me question and I swear I tasted his kiss.  All from him saying my name.  I like someone.  It could be you.

But the best part is…I still love being single.  Word to yo momma.

//part TWO//

rant of the decade though is should i feel bad that i crave something and i can’t get it here in provo?  where are all the good guys hiding?  if i dipset out of my race are you gonna bad mouth me?
so give me my (a) (e) (i) (0) (u).  a) i am attracted to asian and white guys, e) i am attracted black guys too, especially boos like malcom… i) but he needs to be smart o) he needs to be of the individuality persuasion u) he has to see me as a phenom of life.  and do i get that here?  ummmm…NO.  so should i look elsewhere?  perhaps.  at the moment i am rolling in the joys of an STD free life and the singlehood but when i start craving can you really expect me to shut the hell up and take the slim pickings that are offered here?  ummmm me thinks not.

so here’s my DATING 101:

– ain’t a lot of what i want in provo.  straight up on ice that’s $5 advice.
– men of any race and nationality can break your heart.
– if you aren’t down for the revolution i’m not down for you. //i’m a radical at heart//
– don’t hate me cause i’m so lightyears in my wants and needs.  i’m on my grown woman tip.
– i don’t date kids.
– so if you really want to talk to me….leave your application with my assistant.  we’ll get back to ya.

dendoo daily challenge 22 & 23

Posted in Inspiration by dendoo on May 13, 2009

Hi you guys!  Today is a special challenge and it must be special if I’m doing a video…rawr.  Today’s Challenge is to KNOW WHO YOU ARE.  I’m addressing an issue that affects a lot of boys and girls in happy land and shaduh it prounces on me too.  We have to know who are, soul search and crap.  Take a look at this video and explore these questions.  Some people might not understand all of the issue but I am sure you can understand questioning yourself as you relate to others.  yeah, i’m an ordinary young woman and i’m struggling but i’m sharing!  This is a great post, in my opinion, to leave comments on so please do and share this video with your friends.  Let’s question life, others, dreams, answers, and the inner you.  Let’s search.

–ORGANIZATION CHALLENGE
I am so unorganized.  I mentioned I bought a planner and I am having such battles inputting and crap.  I fond these websites that gave some tips on organizing your butt.  Take aaaaa look

Say No to Abuse

Posted in dendoo news, Inspiration by dendoo on May 10, 2009

About 2 weeks ago my sister and I participated in a march held locally protesting against the limited protection for children when it comes to Child Abuse.  I couldn’t get anyone who was working on the board for these laws to change to speak on camera about the specifics but I did get the gist of it.  The laws here in the TCI are so old there is hardly any protection for minors against sexual abuse, divorce, adoption, etc.

Recently in the last few weeks there has been an increase in crimes not only against children but against tourists as well.  I think tourists are annoying as hell but as they provide my internet and cable and my water to drink I’m dont think attacking them is the best course.  There have been reports of sexual crimes against girls and rapes against women.  When I walk to my car at night, if I even venture out at night, I grip my keys in such a way that i am able to jam it in your eye if you mess with me.  Serious.

Well, the march was very successful and there was a great turn out.  The laws haven’t been updated for many years and it goes to show how relaxed and laid back things are here and no one wants to make the effort and take that step unless it happens to them and their family.  The march was important to me because I feel alot of people are out here mating and they have no reason to.  They don’t care for their children, they abuse their powers as parents, they ignore what is right for their child.  As a community we have to work together to raise a better tommorrow.  If I can make it better for a child by marching then why not do it?

Pictures from the march. I’m living for a peace filled world.  I’m living for something more than myself.

me and my handmade signs.  diggin the one on the right, no?
explanation of the one on the right: sleep with a dog before you sleep with a child.
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the girl looking like she don’t want be there is Ms. TCI.  Do you think I could be Ms. TCI?
that’s the last bit of the marchers.  there were waaaaay more ppl in front but i dont have a shot.
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my sister and girls from the centre where i volunteer at.  aren’t they pretty?IMG_3362 IMG_3356

So it might be a small thing like protesting or writing on your blog but there are little things we can do everyday.  We can’t wait till something happens to our own family.  We are all family.  much love, dendoo!

UPDATES

Posted in dendoo art, redbubble, vector by dendoo on October 24, 2008

First off, FREE SHIPPING! Simply clicky the pic to take advantage of this offer and don’t forget to enter the code at checkout to get the FREE SHIPPING.

Plus, if yu haven’t noticed to the right are lovely thumbnails of my tees for sale with little buttons that take you straight to the order page. Great for taking advantage of the FREE WORLDWIDE SHIPPING going on until OCT 30TH.

Plus look out for regular updates, more dendoo in the news and some new fun things that will be sure to make you go yum yum.

xoxo – dendoo